🕊️ From Survival to Presence: A Gentle Reminder to Begin Again

When life feels too heavy, slowing down, letting go, and remembering love can guide us back to ourselves.

Some days, I wake up already tired. My body feels heavy—drained of energy—and my mind, clouded and sad, loops endlessly in overthinking. It’s as if I’ve slipped quietly into survival mode without noticing.

When I pause long enough to reflect, I recognise the signs. I’ve been here before.

I look back over the past few weeks and realise my self-care, self-compassion, and presence have quietly slipped away. Life got busy, overwhelming, and I fell back into old fears:

• Fear that life could be taken from me too soon.

• Fear of not being able to be with my husband, my children, my grandchildren.

• Fear of becoming the source of their pain again.

“Survival mode doesn’t always roar. Sometimes, it just feels like quiet disconnection.”

I’ve been chasing the illusion of a perfect life—the beautiful home and garden, the ease and simplicity we all dream of. But the harder I chase it, the more disconnected I feel. The pressure to “make it all work” keeps me stuck in this relentless survival mode.

And then—finally—I stop....

I let the emotions rise. I give myself permission to cry. The tears flow, and with them, something deep within me unclenches. When the crying slows, I’m exhausted… but lighter.

“Not to fix everything, not to chase perfection, but simply to begin again.”

In that quiet aftermath, I make a different choice.

• I slow down.

• I ground myself in the present moment.

• I reconnect with the love that surrounds me.

• I tune in to the gentle voice within.

“Healing begins not when life is perfect, but when we let love lead us back to the present.”

And I remember why it all hurts so deeply: Because I care. Because I love fully. And that love—that deep well of connection—is also where my healing begins.

So, I give myself permission to reset—not to fix everything, not to chase perfection, but simply to begin again.

• With compassion.

• With presence.

• With softness.

“This is not a failure. This is a return.”

If this resonates with you, let this be your gentle reminder:

✨ It’s okay to pause.

✨ It’s okay to cry.

✨ It’s okay to reset.

“You are not behind. You are becoming.”

You are not alone. You are worthy of rest. You are allowed to begin again.

With love and care,

Bethan xx

Walking the quiet path back to myself, one breath at a time.

Aligning with the heart's desire...

A client’s account of how our appointments supported her during IVF:

A fertility journey is so personal and unique to each woman. This client has chosen to remain anonymous but wanted to share the impact that our appointments had on her IVF journey.

This client originally came for Reproductive Reflexology. Due to the level of anxiety that she was experiencing and the emotional and physical trauma being held, I incorporated embodiment coaching to fully support the client's needs during this time.

This is her account written in her own words:

Reproductive Reflexology with Bethan

Ever since I was a girl playing with dolls & pram, I wanted to be a Mummy Someday.

I then found myself approaching 40, still no children and no partner. A future with no children wasn't what I wanted, in fact I felt a failure for not achieving a family, something I'd always dreamed of.

SO, I made the decision to start fertility treatment as a single woman.

I started with IUI treatments as naively I thought I'd get pregnant really easily, after all I don't have fertility problems, my only issue was no partner.

IUI failed, so the next step was IVF. My first IVF cycle was a positive outcome, but unfortunately I miscarried. I then proceeded with cycles 2 & 3, but still no baby. Emotionally, physically and financially I was drained, lost as to what to do next.

I then decided to have one final IVF cycle; however, I wanted this cycle to be different. I wanted to feel calm throughout the treatment, and as relaxed as possible.

SO, I made an appointment with Bethan for reproductive reflexology. I didn't know what to expect and to be honest was sceptical, but knew I wanted to be calm for IVF, so it was worth a shot.

From the get-go Bethan was friendly, supportive, listened to my struggles & wants. We had a phone appointment first for approx. 40 mins. so Bethan could take down my details and history. I then had 5 or 6 Sessions over the IVF treatment. I'm extremely pleased to say it worked! I'm now 10 wks pregnant, a place I was beginning to lose hope of achieving.

Who knows why my 4th IVF worked, so many factors at play. But what I do know, is that I felt different during my 4th cycle, and that’s thanks to the sessions with Bethan.

I did feel more calm, more relaxed, but more than that, for the first time ever I felt deeply connected to my womb. I saw it as a place for my growing baby (its home). I could see myself as a mother, and that my body can provide all a growing baby needs. I actually enjoyed this IVF cycle, as I felt I was making my baby, not just going for scans, taking hormones, medical procedures.

I felt like a woman, connected to her body, ready to receive my embryos and grow a baby!

Thank you Bethan, your treatments & visualisations changed my IVF experience for the better.

Anon

Body Disconnect

The day that I felt completely terrified of my body was the day that I found out that I had breast cancer.  There were two lumps in my breast and two in my armpit - it had begun to spread.  The darkness dimming my inner light.

I couldn’t be alone with my body.  I felt so threatened, unsafe and scared.  

There was a comfort in having somebody with me at all times.  Even when taking a shower, I would insist that either my husband or eldest daughter would sit in the bathroom and talk to me. It felt safer, as though somehow, they could stop me from being killed by me … by my body.

In that moment, it wasn’t my body but my mind that had the power to kill me - scared of myself!  The what ifs and the dark pictures being painted.  I had become my biggest threat.

There was no protecting me.  

Until I realised that I was my most powerful remedy!

My mind was indeed a high-powered tool.  It had the potential to ruin me or rescue me.  My mind became my armour.

The positive stories that I embraced and visualised.

The mantras that I repeated to build focus and strength.

My breath became a force that soothed my whole being, dissolving anxiety and loosening the grip of fear.

I allowed my physical to be treated by a wonderful medical team.  The harshness of the treatment reflected the severity of the threat.  I nurtured my body’s response to the chemical invasion, embracing compassion and comfort in a way that was so new to me.  I was learning to interpret and respond to the subtle cues that my body was giving me.

Trust grew and connection deepened as I took each day as it came.  Slowly, the transformation that happened was truly within, on all levels.

There are many reasons why people mentally sever the connection to their body.  Reconnecting can mean plugging into pain and trauma.  Finding the inner strength to acknowledge the feeling of deep betrayal of the body, the disappointment and sadness that is bitterly lying dormant can open the doorway to forgiveness.  To embrace compassion and know that you are one, and as a whole you will be stronger. The realisation that even in the most terrifying situations both body and mind are your most loyal companions.  The mind trying hard to protect you from the physical trauma and the body adapting to whatever is needed to survive the conditions.  Understanding the delicate relationship, the intricate connections, that so effortlessly communicate, will pave the way to finding harmony within the chaos.